The Snub

I have a friend that got married last year. It was a beautiful wedding - so I heard. I wasn't invited. Well, I was, but not initially. What do you do when you experience a wedding invitation snubMy advice: cry a river, build a bridge and get over it. 

I assumed I would be invitedthat was my mistake. Never assume! When it comes to planning a large wedding, most couples and their parents create a series of guest lists. There's a list for the couple to be wed, which includes their individual friends, coworkers, and close relatives. And then there's the parents list, which is made up of THEIR friends, coworkers, and relatives.There's also a budget to adhere to. Sticking to the budget is a must! The best way to  reduce costs when planning a wedding is to cut down the guest list (insert sad face here).

The guests on these lists are considered must-have attendees. There is an additional guest list that is compiled of people who are to be invited if and only if the must-haves decline their invitations. I'm not exactly sure what this list is called, but at the time, I called it the s#!^ list. And guess what? I was on it. 

I had a great idea for a wedding gift, but wasn't sure if I had enough time to order it since I had yet to receive my invitation in the mail. I decided to contact my friend to find out the details. That's when I received the bad news. They informed me that I didn't make the initial list and that I would definitely be invited if they had room. I'm sure this piece of information was intended to lessen the blow, but it didn't. In fact, it made me feel a whole lot worse. Most of my friends were invited and I couldn't bare the thought of seeing all of them having a blast on social media. Being left out is no fun, but it happens. I just didn't think it would happen to me.

Instead of waiting around for a possible invite, I decided to make plans with my family who were coming in from out of town. I received a phone call about a week before the wedding; there were two seats available! Unfortunately, I had to decline. I'm better now and all is forgiven. It's kind of funny now in retrospect. It would have been silly of me to let one day ruin several years of friendship. Life is too short for all that nonsense. 

I've learned quite a few things about wedding planning in the last several months. I understand that during this process, difficult decisions have to be made and people may get hurt or offended. There are outside factors that must be taken into consideration. It isn't easy for the happy couple either. So please, if this happens to you, don't take it personal. You never know what decisions you'll have to make until it's your turn to walk down the aisle.