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We thought we had our whole elopement thing figured out a couple months ago, but I guess we were wrong. We keep going back and fourth between wanting to elope or host a small wedding. To me, a small wedding consists of 50 people or less.The problem with having a small wedding is the guest list. Who do we invite? Family. Yes, that's what you would think, but to honest, we're much closer to our friends than our actual blood relatives. It's horrible we know, but tell me we're not alone here! Sometimes we connect with our friends on a such a personal level that they actually become our extended family. 

If we were to go that route, we were thinking to invite immediate family and best friends only, but i'm pretty sure a few people would be a little offended by that decision. We could always let them know what the situation is (budget, stress) but i'm not quite sure if they'd understand. Weddings can make or break relationships! We don't want to go through all that. I guess the most important thing to remember is that it's OUR wedding and we should be able do what feels right to us - like splurge on an awesome vacay instead!

So, where are we now? Elopement is still our number one choice, but we can't seem to shake that little tiny voice that keeps telling us to invite our loved ones. If money and stress wasn't an issue, we'd say no problem! Unfortunately, this isn't the case. There IS life after the wedding bells have rung. We have commitments and responsibilities that need to be taken care of. We also have to take care of ourselves and follow our hearts. Decisions, decisions! Welcome to adulthood!

I've been thinking...

 

Okay guys, I don’t really know where I’m going with this, but I run this blog and I should be able to talk about anything I want (I woke up a lil sassy today, can you tell?) I’m not sure if it’s because i’m getting older or what, but i’ve been thinking about life a lot lately. What’s important, what it means to be alive, what’s my purpose...that sorta stuff.

 Anyway, I was sitting at home doing my usual research routine when I became quite annoyed. While reading a very popular wedding magazine, I was bombarded with all these advertisements, absurd rules and etiquette tips - it was just way too much! A complete circus! But then again, maybe I should have known better. The magazine was about 500+ pages long! What is all this?! This isn’t fun at all! I read articles and watch A LOT of shows about weddings and I always hear couples say “We’re so glad it’s over.” That really makes me sad. So sad that I didn't bother to do anything wedding related for almost two weeks. 

 Yes, I know wedding planning involves a lot of work, but I wish that we didn’t get so caught up in the idea that things have to be done a certain way or that everything has to be perfect. Life isn’t perfect- in fact, its quite messy. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Seriously. I was stressing out whether or not it would rain on our big day (wedding hint: It's going to be outdoors!) and I was like, “Who cares? If it rains, so be it. This is our journey.” The most important thing to me on my wedding day is the exchange of vows. I plan on writing mine. I hope my fiancé is on board with this idea too. It will be the only time I get to be mushy without him gagging or laughing in my face. I’m really looking forward to it. 

For a long time, I wasn't sure if we were ever going to get married. This kind of bothered me, but I think it was mostly due to the fact that I was getting older and felt pressured by time. Two years ago I told myself if it never happened, then I would be okay with it. Why? Because I loved him and he was the only one I wanted to be with. Well, he proposed and it was awesome. I'm loving this new phase and I kinda don't want it to end. It wasn't the ring, or the fact that he took me to Machu Picchu (a total bonus!), it was his words. It wasn't in a letter or a card; it was him, telling me in his own way, how much he loved me. 

So my question to you is this: what’s really important? Whatever it is, hold on to it and don't let go! It's easy to sucked up into the whirlwind of planning. A wedding is just a stepping stone into something bigger than ourselves. Remember that!